Marriage is such a beautiful gift and too often we are swept
up in the daily struggles of life to fully cherish what we have. I feel so blessed to have a partner in this
world who sees me as his equal, supports me in every way he can, worries about
me, treasures my insights and ideas, and loves me for who I am. Not enough people in this world can actually
say that statement in truth, and that saddens me. To be honest, I don’t know where I’d be
without my husband. He’s my best friend, my rock, and my life-long love. My love for him comes only second to my love
for God, and to have that sentiment reciprocated is the best feeling in the
world.
Unfortunately, this school year has been extremely stressful
and a true test to our marriage because of how little time we actually get to
spend together. Since every day has
been feeling very repetitive and mundane, I decided that we desperately needed
a date night. Well, tonight was one of
the best nights we’ve had in a long time.
For the first time since the school year started, David and I took the
night to enjoy each other’s company and have a romantic dinner and movie. We laughed, stuffed ourselves with fantastic food,
kissed, held hands, and fully appreciated our time together. We even took a drive by our old college,
taking in how it has (and hasn’t) changed since we left.
Just the time spent sitting in the car, blaring the music,
and smiling at each other, while I sing terribly off-key and he sings right on
pitch, was fabulous. Yet, we made the
night even better by going out to one of our favorite restaurants, seeing a
cheesy romantic comedy, and holding hands every chance we got. I honestly felt like we were just starting to
date again, and it was a wonderful sensation!
After the movie, we decided to drive by our old
college. Wow, is it funny how a few
years can change things. The buildings
are the same, and the parking lots have only slightly expanded, but the atmosphere
just seems so different now. When we
were there, it was like the entire world was open to us and every possibility
lay before us. Now, I see the fresh
faces of eager, young, and energetic college students, and I realize they don’t
know just how good they have it.
I remember being there and struggling to pull myself out of
bed some mornings (especially when my CF was acting up). I would attend about 5 hours maximum of
classes and then had the rest of the day free to do homework, sleep, or hang
out with friends. Seriously? What is
more perfect than the above description?
I didn’t “pay” rent (although my student loans beg to differ), I had
meals made for me, I was surrounded by people my own age who actually cared
about me, I developed life-long friendships, and I found the love of my
life. College was such a great time in
my life, and I am so grateful to have gone where I did (even if my degree is of
no use now).
After leaving our detour, David made an interesting but
quite accurate statement that I hadn’t thought of before. We had been talking about our college
memories, our up-all-hours-of-the-night and desperately-need-coffee days, and
about our crazy and random road trips, when he suddenly looked over and said, “It’s
funny how fast we became a family.”
Wow. That line really hit me hard. I hadn’t thought about it in those terms, but
he was exactly right. I don’t know why I’ve
always envisioned a “family” being us and a child, but that’s really not the
case. We’re a family already. We look after each other, fulfill each other’s
needs and desires, listen to each other, love each other, and treat our dog as
if she’s our daughter. We have an
established routine and we struggle if we have to vary from it. We love sitting
on the couch and doing nothing. Also, we can go for hours without talking and
know just how the other person is feeling.
It’s quite evident that we’ve already started building this beautiful
family unit that one day will hopefully include a child or children. I’m not really sure when it started (was it
right after our marriage or was it starting even before that?), but we have
certainly evolved, for the better, from our college days.
Marriage is such a beautiful gift. Looking back on our journey from where our
relationship started to where it is now is breathtaking. I’m so proud of us, and I’m excited about
what our future holds. I’ll tell you
one thing for sure, if date night brings revelations like this all the time, it’s
going to have to become a pretty regular thing around this house.
I think you and David started being a family almost as soon as you guys started dating. :)
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